I have been in the “body business” for a very long time. I am at a place where I am looking back and seeing clearly where I’ve been and absolutely love where I’m at now.
I once struggled against my body and always seemed to want it to be different than it was–that sounds familiar doesn’t it?
We always want something different than what we have. People are always asking me how to gain muscle mass, how to get rid of the roll around their abdominal area, how to get more muscle tone, etc. Unfortunately, when we focus on what is wrong with our bodies, we keep getting what’s wrong….the Law of Attraction works on our body as well.
There are many technical answers to all those questions and I usually give them the strategies to make their dreams come true, but I always turn it back to embracing where they are and giving most of their thoughts to what they want to see and not on what’s “wrong” with them. Most of us are way too focused on what’s wrong when we should be turning away from what we are not wanting to see and seeing what we do want. Easier said than done, I know, but it really is pretty simple.
A young man in my Weight Training class asked me how to gain muscle mass. He is a smaller guy surrounded by lots of bigger guys. I can understand his desire to be bigger but what I really want him to embrace is who he IS NOW!
He is ADORABLE! Because he’s small and comparing himself to all the bigger guys out there, he’s holding himself apart from who he really is.
The more guys I meet that are of a smaller stature, the more I prefer their energy. Some people call it the “little guy complex”, but I abolutely love their energy.
They have a BOLD CONFIDENCE that is so magnetic to me. They carry themselves with such a strength and posture! They are more of who they are because they have to be!
I was married to a big, tall man (6’3″) for many years. It seems like his stature made him a little lazy in the confidence department…a little lazy in the way he carried himself. I mean no disrespect toward him–I just see a parallel in this area. He didn’t have to be a bundle of energy, he has never been in a fight because people just saw the big tall body and didn’t challenge him in any way.
One of the smaller guys I know has a big temper and is always having to prove and protect himself…he gets in a few too many fights. That’s something he could tame a bit I’m sure, but who he is underneath is magnetic and full of charisma.
I just believe it is because he has had to urge forth more of the juice of who he is out of him.
Oh, I know I’m rambling a bit, but I really want to make this point. Smaller guys, just be who you are. Yes, it’s okay if you try to gain some muscle mass but know that you aren’t going to be one of those big tall hunky guys.
YOU ARE ALREADY so amazing because of what is inside you!
Let the energy inside you guide you to BE the person you are and don’t let the muscles you long to build be something that holds you apart from that energy.
The long and the short of it (no pun intended) is EMBRACE who and where you are now. If you knew who you are now, you wouldn’t be struggling so hard to GET something or somewhere else. JUST BE YOU! Enjoy the process of reaching for all you desire but embrace and love who you are now….I know I DO!